I’m not angry, I’m Just Sayin’.
Now that i’m writing my books and touring all over the country, I’m hearing more and more of what people think about women from East Coast, namely, North East (PA, NY, NJ, MA and some even say MD). Initially, I’d heard some say that the black women in north east are angry or bitter. Now, I hear most say women from north east are abrupt, assertive, harsh, rough around the edges, etc., and rude, being short and to the point.
I don’t really know how to swallow this one. Of course I’m from north east, NJ/NY area, but, I do see a similarity in the women of those states mentioned, but, I think it’s the metropolitan environment that drives us to be assertive, and often wanting to be straight and to the point. Where we live, it is business as usual and we’re all in a rush to no where and must comply with this historical trend. We not only have to work to help the family continue onward, but, we also have an unseen elephant in the room at the workplace, which has everyone in the office seeking growth opportunities and of lately, fighting to keep their job. Where men are use to challenges like this in sports and just being a man, I believe this has women on edge and readily able to assert themselves, not to mention, have a voice in the workplace, which probably becomes a part of their personality AND is adopted by their children.
Moreover, a woman’s job isn’t over at 5pm when they leave the work place, their responsibilities to their families plentiful. When women clock out at work, they also have to race home or, race to pick up the kids and race home, drive up to 2 hours in traffic, avoiding accidents, stop at the grocery store and/or cook, help with homework, clean, put the kids to bed, pack lunch, care for husband and then get herself ready for the next day. A woman in our area may get to bed 10pm or 11pm at night and most directors or VP’s I know get to bed 1am or 2am in the morning, after they do more office work, waking up to coffee and traffic to be to work by 8am the next morning. I know, I’ve been there.
Although I can not say that I agree that we women north east of the country are as harsh as some may say, I do have to say things move faster here than it does in most parts of the country, and make us adjust to a straight and to the point attitude, which some may take as being short. I visit different places and the people are so calm and relaxed. Even in places where there is heavy traffic like the airport or the busy city streets, place like Atlanta, St. Louis, Richmond, etc., the people in the south and about are still calm and laid back after a work day, very serene, mostly. For us up north, there are definitely not enough hours in a day, so we may be a little straight and to the point, but it’s the nature of the beast, the metropolitan area that causes us to communicate in such a way. But, we’re definitely not gonna snatch your heads off your shoulders or behave like the women you see on reality shows, well, unless you’re dressed as a mugger and approaching, lol.
Hope this gives just a little insight on our plight and the trends that make us speak, act or react in the manner we do. But, please, don’t let reality shows make you put a people in a group as in our likeness, we are all our own person, yet different because of it.
I’m just sayin,